Family

What is the meaning of family today in 2009?

In the year 2009, the family structure has changed; the dynamics have changed as well. The family today is not the Leave it To Beaver setting it was some fifty years ago. Some of us thought when we had a family; we hoped for the most part that it would be a Rockwell Setting, treasured by everyone who saw us as a family. But mostly what we see is life unfolding, quietly, gracefully, one moment at a time.


I am discouraged by the stories I have heard in 2009 that reflect our unwillingness to extend to our men, the same emotional support we so desperately want filled by “our man.” Our men need us as they transition from provider to “househusband” until they can figure out what’s next. For some househusband may become a permanent answer while their wife earns the higher salary. Despite what you may or may not think of men (and girl I understand) they generally do have their family’s best interests at heart. They want us to have the house in a great neighborhood, good schools, support your passion, vacations, and pretty things whatever it is in the lifestyle you and your children want.

In previous blogs I have decisively stated my full support of real housewives and the importance of their hard work at home and raising their children. That being said, for some women, there is no broadmindedness for their husband’s emotional breakdown in watching their business, long-career or job in a specific area (which often does not translate easily to another field of work) fail. Men from mid to early 40’s through 65 are suddenly faced with completely starting over, in the real estate market, car business, factory assembly, corporate careers, textile…the list is long and may not be pretty.
However, in the first six months of unemployment we see them struggle and feeling overwhelmed by the job market in their own fields. Some take any job, while looking for another. By the second six months we are dissatisfied, appalled by their being at home and need for them to start doing the chores that you no longer have the time to complete. I whole hardly agree whoever is home takes care of the home.
Unhappily they are fraught with depression and concerned as the job market is bleak and funds have all about run out. They are not proud of sitting on the couch overwhelmed and feeling defunct, they do not know the symptoms of depression. We begin to believe they have become lazy, taking advantage of the situation as a temporary vacation while we scramble to keep it all going
The man you thought you married is still there but he needs a chance to recover. His inner life, his self-image as he knows it has been crushed. You don’t have to understand the way a man thinks to support him as one human being to another. He needs to know you still value and appreciate him. He needs your acknowledgement that he has been a “good” man and you will be there to catch him when he falls.
During these unsympathetic financial times we all need to pull together during the hard times. It is easy to be happy when all is well. Now is the time to remember why you are together and what is the most important things in your lives are.
Children yearn for time with parents. It makes them feel special. Parents are encouraged to find time to spend playing with their kids on a regular basis. This should include one to one with each child and group time with all of the adults and kids in the home. If you are a single parent or have an only child, occasionally invite family or friends over to play.
Playing with kids builds a bond that will last forever. It lets the child know he or she is loved and pleasing. It opens the door for sharing problems and concerns when the need arises. It helps the parent get to know and under the uniqueness of each child. This also improves parent-child communication and reduces behaviour problems. It is also great stress reducer for overworked parents.

Child Psychology information to help build parenting skills that help to provide structure and encouragement for children of all ages from toddlers to teens. These positive parenting tips build self-esteem, self-discipline and create kids that are winners. Parents learn useful techniques to improve specific behavior problems.

Whatever your style of parenting is, remembering a family is a team of people working together, to get into the same direction that performs as a family with love, thoughtful and compassion for once another, family means work, a work that has outstanding results when we work together as one unit with love, as a family, always in the name of love.

I am Viesta, I am out~